After the war my mother struggled to take care of us. We had nothing. We were poor. My mother contracted breast cancer.
They removed a breast, but it was too late. The cancer had spread all over her. She knew she was going to die because the
night before she had all of us come to the hospital room. She said to me, "You gotta be a good girl." My sister-in-law took
me back to her house while my brother and sister stayed overnight at the hospital. The next day they came back to get me.
She had died during the night. My mother was only forty-five when she died. God gave her too little time. I still cry for
her.
My mother died in February 1950, when I was ten. In March 1950 the International Ladies' Garment Workers' Union was having a 50th anniversary celebration in Atlantic City. The Union had sent money to help the children. They invited two
kids from France, two kids from Italy and one from Belgium. The director of my school knew us and asked my sister. The first
little girl had either gotten sick or chickened out. Having had nothing for most of my life, I thought the trip was like heaven.
We were treated like royalty.
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We landed in New York and visited the Union headquarters. They were so good to us.
They gave me a new watch and one for my sister. There was this wonderful man, Mr. Rubin. Also, this journalist and his wife
really took a liking to me. They took me to Klein's Department Store, to the Toy Department. They said, "You can pick out
any doll you want and anything to go with her." I guess I have always been a certain way. I picked out just one doll and nothing
else. Oh, I loved that doll. She really was beautiful. The trip was the most incredible six weeks.
A month after I got back to Belgium, we got a letter from the Savage family. In America there had been a news article about
our trip in the Forward Yiddish Newspaper. Some of my father's sisters had gone to America before the war. The Savages were
related to them. My brother had gotten married and had two kids. My sister was engaged to be married. The Savages offered
to bring me to America. My sister thought I had a chance to be adopted and to have a better life.
Leaving Belgium was the most traumatic thing that had ever happened to me. I was close to my brother and my sister. To
me it looked as if they did not want me anymore now that they were married.
The Savages had gone to a lot of trouble. They had obtained special permission from the governor of New York to get me
a visa outside of the immigration quotas. The Sabena flight took eighteen hours. I had never been on an airplane before. At
the stopover in Greenland I ate an ice cream cone. I got sick on the plane. When we landed in New York my only thought was
where can I hide so I can go back with the plane.
The day I landed was my twelfth birthday. I did not speak any English. I did not know what the people looked like who would
be coming to get me. When they saw me, the Savages were mortified because I was so skinny. I weighed 62 pounds. When they
gave me a bath they said my skin was grey. It would have been better if they had not adopted me. I guess they did the best
they could.
I was young when I got married. I had two boys, and later I got divorced. I was alone for a long time. Then I met Maurice.
In 1970 my ex-husband's family introduced us. Maurice was a widower with four children. When we met he was singing in a barbershop
quartet in Atlantic City. Maurice is the most wonderful person in the whole world. It is like God finally said, "OK, you deserve
him." We have six wonderful children and nine grandchildren.
I did not start to speak about the Holocaust until after I joined the New Americans Social Club. I think it was partly
from denial and partly from guilt. Can you imagine? I was a grown mother with six kids and I would be driving in City Park
and I would imagine that my father would show up.
In 1985 I went to the World Gathering of Holocaust Survivors held in Philadelphia. It was an incredible experience. Several
of us from the New Americans went together. Elie Wiesel spoke. I was with a lot of people who had experienced harder things
than I had. But we were all survivors.
At the Gathering there was a book of German records. The Germans were meticulous record keepers. This book contained the
names of people who had been deported to the concentration camps. This was the first time that I saw my father's name as being
deported. For years I really had the fantasy that he would find us, but in Philadelphia I saw his name. They had added the
dates when the person came back from the camps. Next to his name there was nothing. This was the first time it sank in. He
was not coming back. I was glad my sister and brother-in-law were there.
At the Philadelphia gathering there was a stage. Survivors would get up on the stage and say, "Is anybody here from this
town" or "I survived this camp." They were hoping to meet someone. It was heartbreaking to see that after so many years people
were still searching. People were still hopeful.
I think that my parents may have paid the woman I was hidden with. If it were not for her, I would not be here. I don't
know where she lived. My sister doesn't know, and my brother doesn't know. My father was killed, and my mother died when I
was ten. My parents were the only two people who knew where I had been hidden. I would like so much to do something for that
woman. I am sure she is not alive, but maybe her daughters are. I would like to thank her, and I can't because I don't know
who she was. I don't have a clue. What seemed a far distance to a three-year-old may not be so far away to an adult, but I
don't know. I have no idea.
I did not observe anything for the longest time. I did not believe in God. I think a lot of survivors feel guilty about
surviving: "Why am I alive and why is my father dead? Maybe God chose me because I am able to make a little contribution by
telling this now."
People ask me, can I forgive? I can't. I cannot forgive. I blame the German people a great deal because I feel they were
passive. They turned away. They may have the audacity to say they did not know. That is unacceptable. Until they can own up
to it, I can't forgive.